In response to my last post about rock bands, I received the following comment by someone using the name Gene Simmons:
i hate that old dried up cunt, the one who ´s son died
Here are my thoughts. It’s wrong to attack someone like this, online or otherwise. Why the hell would a total stranger try to hurt me in this way?? Just because they could get away with it? It is beyond my understanding.
So I wrote back to this person, and said:
What a horrible thing to write to me! May I ask what moves you to write such a hateful comment to someone you have never met? I hope you never experience the loss of a child. Meanwhile, I’d like to know why you would invoke the loss of mine in response to an innocuous blog post about rock bands? Sister Wolf
The next day, she replied:
you know what you are right
I ´m deeply sorry
your loss is way too big for me to understand, and i was outta line
this is what made me write that:
“that girl whose boyfriend punched her in the face”
when a person suffers through abuse, besides the beatings and insults and humiliation
what hurts the most is the scorn of those around her,
“that would never happen to me”
“that happens only to stupid bitches”
and it pissed me off that while you demand compassion about your situation,
you show none towards someone who was fucking publicly punched in the face and then mocked endlessly for it
sometimes the only person who doesn ´t shit on you for being in that situation
(that looks so simple but it ´s not)
is your abuser
so you go back because in that moment he is being sweet, when deep down you know that it won ´t last
and it was a mistake I ´m sorry
I know things don ´t get better by insulting someone else in pain
and there i was trying to put you down to make myself feel better
when we are all fighting something
that random comment just struck a cord, felt personal you know?
Ã³bviously I ´m not without fault myself
I hope this makes you feel less insulted
Having read and reread this explanation, I don’t feel Gene Simmons knows the difference between a pop star and a blogger who lost a child. I don’t “demand compassion” as Gene Simmons states. I have no demands. I merely expect human decency from those who wish to leave comments.
Gene Simmons is actually a 31 year old aspiring artist named Gabriela who lives in Mexico. There she is, above. She needs to take responsibility for the things she writes. She’s not 12 years old, after all.
I don’t want to hear ONE MORE WORD about my vag, which in fact does not suffer from dryness. And I don’t want to be taunted with the death of my child.
Please explain to Gabriela why her apology is worthless, since I don’t feel adequate to the task. Explain to her that the cause of abused women isn’t furthered by grotesque insults lobbed at other women, under cover of a pseudonym.
And if you want more of Gabriela in your life, you can visit her here.